It's not that I don't like people. I just don't like dishonest, incompetent, lazy, complaining or inconsiderate people. Unfortunately the world is full of people that have these characteristics which means there are a lot of people that I don't like.
This blog post is being written on the heels of having my car being vandalized, quitting a job due to the aggravation of a busy body coworker, being taken advantage of by a business associate and finally some Jack a** in my apartment complex that hit my car and created significant damage but didn’t leave a note. To add insult to injury to a heaping pile of emotional breakdown waiting to happen any day now, when I picked up my Mexican food for lunch the guy thought it was OK to tell me I had enough chips for two containers of salsa and an order of queso. I had to take a deep breath at that point because his little antics didn’t warrant the blow up that he was on tap to receive from all the other crap I have going on.
As I took my deep breath I gave him that look that said man today is not the day. He hurried back to the kitchen and brought me more chips. I grabbed them and exited out the door with an eye roll. I started to go and take one of my dollars back that I had left for his tip, but I figured I didn’t need any more bad luck coming my way.
Speaking of bad luck I am going to take this time to make a little side bar. I am quick to say people will get their karma back when things like this happen. Today I am asking myself why oh why is this crap happening to me? I am very considerate of others and I stay mindful about how my energy affects other people. Before I let myself go down the path of woe is me, I reminded myself that bad things happen to good people. I quickly told myself that in spite of all the crazy I am still OK. Nothing about my life has been drastically altered due to these things happening. After I changed my mood I took a deep breath and proceeded with my day.
Now getting back to me not liking people. The moment I see the negative characteristics in people I'm usually done. I guess this is why my family and friends say I don't like people because I am quick to dismiss people with bad behavior. I wish I could be more Christ like and allow people to be who they are, but unfortunately I’m a human that lacks patience. Since I know this about myself the easiest defense mechanism I exercise is avoiding and minimizing my time spent with people who aggravate me.
My goal with this post is to hopefully show you how you can quickly change the energy of a situation from negative to positive if you just change your mindset. This is Living Dreams Joyfully, but I want you to understand that being joyful doesn’t mean bad things don’t happen. It just means you have to choose to be joyful in spite of them. Those negative people can quickly drag you into their misery if you let them. I will leave you with this bible verse to reflect on when you are tempted to respond to negativity with negativity.
And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not. Galatians 6:9 KJV